Getting the attention of a guy that you're interested in shouldn't require a skillfully laid out plan. Men don't need to be a mystery to you and getting the attention of any man you desire requires only a few key pieces of knowledge. It doesn't matter how handsome he is, how popular he is or even if you think that there is no way that he will be attracted to you. Once you understand how men process attraction and what will draw him in, it won't even matter if there is a model hitting on him. You will be the one talking to him at the end of the night.
While it is unfortunate that men and women don't think alike, if it was simple then there would be no challenge. Many women make the mistake of trying to give a man the same signals or treatment that they desire. Men are simply wired differently and they feel attraction on a different level. Becoming friends might be easy but if you are hoping to ignite romantic feelings that lead to a relationship then you must understand how to make him look at you differently and feel differently around you than he does with any other woman.
As you know already, men are primarily attracted to things visually. We could use cars as an example, among other things. A man will like a car because of how it makes him feel visually before he sits in it or takes it for a test drive. A man is also attracted to a woman visually initially and this will play a role throughout the courtship process as he becomes connected to you. Of course, eventually, that visual stimulation wears off and his decision about who he is attracted to takes other factors into consideration such as personality, character and temperament. Initially, you need to attract him visually before you can show him how wonderful you are. If you are worried now because you're not perfect or you feel that there is nothing visually attractive about you then just relax. All that is required is at least one single visual trigger for him to take notice of you and then the fun begins.
It could be that you have nice hair or beautiful eyes or a pleasant shape that is appealing to a man's eyes. To improve your odds of winning, you can accentuate your best features and not worry about the features that might not be so attractive. We all have things that we like about ourselves as well as thing that we would rather hide, if possible. By accentuating just a few of your positive features you may hit a nerve that will allow him to see only that one feature and that is your foot in the door.
Next, for a man, flirting is the only way that you're going to be able to let him know that you're interested in him without coming right out and saying the words. You might feel silly flirting or you might think that it doesn't work or that you're transparent but the truth is that it does work. Men love to be flirted with. In our present day, very few women openly flirt so if you have the courage to flirt with him, there will be no doubt about how you feel about him and you won't have to say a word.
Flirting involves everything that you have been led to believe it does. Batting your eyes at him, winking at him, laughing at his jokes, leaning in close when you talk to him and making eye contact are all methods of flirting that actually work. Touching him when you talk to him or when he's close is another great way to make a connection with him and make him feel something for you without being too forward. Flirting really is a lost art but you don't have to be skilled to flip your hair or look at him longingly through your tousled hair. Even smiling is a form of flirting but you have to know how to do it right.
Getting inside his mind and creating a deep connection with him is easily accomplished by talking with him. Engaging him in deep conversation where you both show that you're interested in him as a human being but also drawing him out to expose himself will be your goal. He may have a lot of people in his life that he considers close friends. He might even have women in his life that he dates from time to time but you're going to connect with him on a level that most people never attempt to connect with him on. By asking a certain type of question or line of questions that probe deep down into who he actually is, he will feel like he has known you all his life.
While we all tend to ask the same questions when we meet someone new such as what they do for a living, where they grew up or what they enjoy doing in their spare time, these are boring questions but they don't need to be. As he begins to give you the same answers that we all give to such questions, dig deeper into who he actually is. Ask him if he always wanted the career that he is in now or if he had other plans when he was younger. This will lead to more personal answer as you uncover who he actually is as a person. You'll learn about his dreams and goals for his life as well as his likes and dislikes. Sharing such personal information will lead him to feel something special for you. He will feel that you are different and you will learn more about him than most of his closest friends know simply because you were brave enough to ask personal questions. This bond is both real as well as emotional. When we share details about our life and our dreams, we become connected to that other person in a very real way. This is the path to bonding and intimacy.
As you can see, creating a connection that is real and tangible isn't difficult. You can have fun while you attract that guy that you're interested in become someone that he truly appreciates and cherishes as a woman and a person. What you look like, how intelligent you are and your level of success isn't important to a man. How you make him feel when he is with you is the most attractive aspect of a relationship for a man. If he trusts you and feels that you're different than other women, he will share his most precious secrets with you. You will become someone crucial in his life and you won't have to worry about other women or having him lose interest in you. His affection and devotion will mirror the attention and passion that you show towards him. Understanding men and how they think and feel are the keys to making him fall in love with you. Once you understand what makes a man tick, attracting him will be simple.
While it is unfortunate that men and women don't think alike, if it was simple then there would be no challenge. Many women make the mistake of trying to give a man the same signals or treatment that they desire. Men are simply wired differently and they feel attraction on a different level. Becoming friends might be easy but if you are hoping to ignite romantic feelings that lead to a relationship then you must understand how to make him look at you differently and feel differently around you than he does with any other woman.
As you know already, men are primarily attracted to things visually. We could use cars as an example, among other things. A man will like a car because of how it makes him feel visually before he sits in it or takes it for a test drive. A man is also attracted to a woman visually initially and this will play a role throughout the courtship process as he becomes connected to you. Of course, eventually, that visual stimulation wears off and his decision about who he is attracted to takes other factors into consideration such as personality, character and temperament. Initially, you need to attract him visually before you can show him how wonderful you are. If you are worried now because you're not perfect or you feel that there is nothing visually attractive about you then just relax. All that is required is at least one single visual trigger for him to take notice of you and then the fun begins.
It could be that you have nice hair or beautiful eyes or a pleasant shape that is appealing to a man's eyes. To improve your odds of winning, you can accentuate your best features and not worry about the features that might not be so attractive. We all have things that we like about ourselves as well as thing that we would rather hide, if possible. By accentuating just a few of your positive features you may hit a nerve that will allow him to see only that one feature and that is your foot in the door.
Next, for a man, flirting is the only way that you're going to be able to let him know that you're interested in him without coming right out and saying the words. You might feel silly flirting or you might think that it doesn't work or that you're transparent but the truth is that it does work. Men love to be flirted with. In our present day, very few women openly flirt so if you have the courage to flirt with him, there will be no doubt about how you feel about him and you won't have to say a word.
Flirting involves everything that you have been led to believe it does. Batting your eyes at him, winking at him, laughing at his jokes, leaning in close when you talk to him and making eye contact are all methods of flirting that actually work. Touching him when you talk to him or when he's close is another great way to make a connection with him and make him feel something for you without being too forward. Flirting really is a lost art but you don't have to be skilled to flip your hair or look at him longingly through your tousled hair. Even smiling is a form of flirting but you have to know how to do it right.
Getting inside his mind and creating a deep connection with him is easily accomplished by talking with him. Engaging him in deep conversation where you both show that you're interested in him as a human being but also drawing him out to expose himself will be your goal. He may have a lot of people in his life that he considers close friends. He might even have women in his life that he dates from time to time but you're going to connect with him on a level that most people never attempt to connect with him on. By asking a certain type of question or line of questions that probe deep down into who he actually is, he will feel like he has known you all his life.
While we all tend to ask the same questions when we meet someone new such as what they do for a living, where they grew up or what they enjoy doing in their spare time, these are boring questions but they don't need to be. As he begins to give you the same answers that we all give to such questions, dig deeper into who he actually is. Ask him if he always wanted the career that he is in now or if he had other plans when he was younger. This will lead to more personal answer as you uncover who he actually is as a person. You'll learn about his dreams and goals for his life as well as his likes and dislikes. Sharing such personal information will lead him to feel something special for you. He will feel that you are different and you will learn more about him than most of his closest friends know simply because you were brave enough to ask personal questions. This bond is both real as well as emotional. When we share details about our life and our dreams, we become connected to that other person in a very real way. This is the path to bonding and intimacy.
As you can see, creating a connection that is real and tangible isn't difficult. You can have fun while you attract that guy that you're interested in become someone that he truly appreciates and cherishes as a woman and a person. What you look like, how intelligent you are and your level of success isn't important to a man. How you make him feel when he is with you is the most attractive aspect of a relationship for a man. If he trusts you and feels that you're different than other women, he will share his most precious secrets with you. You will become someone crucial in his life and you won't have to worry about other women or having him lose interest in you. His affection and devotion will mirror the attention and passion that you show towards him. Understanding men and how they think and feel are the keys to making him fall in love with you. Once you understand what makes a man tick, attracting him will be simple.
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