Looking to improve your sex life quickly? Well let me help you now, by giving you some simple tips to amaze your lover that you can use tonight.

In this article (which will take you less than 5 minutes to read) I will give you food for thought. Plus tools that will make you a successful lover and leave your partner in state of bliss.

Being A "Sexual Dominater"

Guys you have to be strong and confident if not your doomed to fail. Women love strong men, so want a man who is going to take control. They want an alpha male not someone who is unsure of himself.

They are hard-wired that way. It is a primal thing... It's about pro-creating with a man that will be able to look after their off-spring.

That means she is looking for you to show her new positions, please her in new ways. It is the man who has to take control as they are the ones that thrusting and "entering" the woman.

By taking control not only do you get more enjoyment but she will love the feeling of being controlled.

How Do You Become A "Sexual Dominater"

Well there are a few tips I can give you.

1) Don't Ask Just Act

Nothing spoils the mood for a woman as quickly as man asking her every two minutes is that "OK" or asking if he should speed up or slow down. If she doesn't like something you are doing she will soon tell you.

My tips is to take control but always be respectful and make sure she is comfortable.

2) Show Your Strength

Be playful but show your strength. For example you can "pin her arms down". This makes for great foreplay. As she gets to act as a damsel in distress and try to get out from under you. However always remember to make sure it is always "within limits".

Foreplay First - Don't Rush Ahead To Quickly

Guys we always think with our dick it's true. Women are different. Foreplay refers to acts that excite lovers before sexual penetration. You can approach foreplay in a number of ways and it doesn't always have to involve physical contact.

Let me give you an example, think about your communication when approaching sex. Talking dirty can get things going. However if you go too far then she just ends up "plain feeling dirty". You need to mix it up a little with compliments too.

So let's say when you are kissing her neck you whisper dirty things in her ear. If you are kissing her belly button your telling her how sexy she is and what you want to do to her later.

Keep It Moving Boys

If you have found a great spot that is getting your woman all hot and bothered, job well done BUT remember to mix it up. Move between that spot an others too. If you spend too much time on one spot she will eventually get bored.

What If She Starts To Get Bored?

Look sometimes you have had great foreplay and you move on to having penetrative sex. All seems to be going well and then suddenly she seems disinterested.

Guys this is normal. It is the way women are wired. It is well-known fact that 55% of women cannot reach orgasm from vaginal sex alone. So if she gets bored move back to some foreplay and concentrate on some other erogenous zones like nibbling her ears and kissing around the neck and collar-bone.

Make Her Wait - Build Up The Tension

Nothing build up some tension like being made to wait right? You can introduce that into your sex life. Guys don't just go with some ordinary thrusting.

Change the pace such as once you've done some "traditional" in-and-out style thrusting. Stop and make her wait to build up her anticipation. Then a great technique to use is to enter her and then gently circle your hips.

Why? Well that way your penis circles around her vagina and hits all the surfaces. You can mix this up with some in-and-out thrusting too.

I have more great information to share with you. You can watch my video " Be The Ultimate Lover " where I go into more details about how to send your women wild.

Or you can head straight to my site Erection Health HQ and get access to my free guides.

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The Sexual Anatomy Involved in Female Orgasm

Shere Hite targeted female masturbation specifically so her sample included even more women (82%) who masturbated (compared with Kinsey's sample). Yet even though such women must be familiar with clitoral stimulation techniques when masturbating, around half of them said the same techniques did not help them orgasm with a lover.

Once again such an even split is hardly conclusive and simply indicates the confusion that arises from women's responses being so obscure.

Misconception: Because of the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that women can masturbate to orgasm with a lover as easily as men do. But if this were so, no one would ever ask about female orgasm. The clitoris does not respond because women are not easily aroused.

The clitoris was unheard of until Kinsey highlighted its role in female masturbation and lesbian sex. He interviewed thousands of heterosexuals but picked up no hint of couples using clitoral stimulation techniques. Yet 20 years later women (responding to Hite) used the clitoris to explain their orgasms with a male lover. Shere Hite's questionnaires inferred a link just by asking about masturbation, clitoral stimulation and orgasm.

Researchers mistakenly assume that every woman knows whether she has an orgasm or not. Unless she masturbates (to orgasm) a woman does not realise the limited circumstances in which female orgasm occurs. A woman can account for her orgasms as she pleases. It's a free world. But if a significant number of women stimulate themselves with a male lover then it seems strange that so few men are aware of the role of the clitoris.

There is a link between female orgasm and clitoral stimulation. But the association comes not from women's experience of sex with a man but from their experience of masturbation alone. Pornography is misleading because it shows women providing a masturbatory display for male gratification. Women's orgasmic ability is simply not this flexible or sociable.

Men gain a significant pleasure from their penis, which once erect becomes highly sensitised so that stimulation is intensely pleasurable. Stimulation of the clitoris is not sensationally pleasurable. Clitoral stimulation represents a means to an end (female orgasm) when combined with an intense focus on fantasy. Regardless of who provides the stimulation during sex women's lack of mental arousal does not facilitate orgasm. So a woman has no incentive to stimulate herself with a lover.

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Five Ways to Improve Your Sex Life

Many people find that when they are in a committed long-term relationship their sex lives can, over time, become perfunctory, routine, habitual, to be performed at certain times and ways each week. However, all it takes is a little thought and effort to make a difference and consequently improve your sex life.

Here are five ways to improve your sex life:

- Nurture your relationship. Be loyal and support feeling positive about each other, demonstrate interest in their interests, continue to care about each other's well-being, happiness and satisfaction and this will go a long way towards benefitting the relationship and as such help improve your sex life. When two people like each other they enjoy giving each other pleasure, a good time, a satisfying experience. Consideration, mutual respect and concern can enhance the sexual experience for both of you.

- Have fun. Sex can be a serious matter but it should also be fun. Your sex life may well be improved by being a little less inhibited. Why not spend time sensitively exploring your fantasies together; role play, dress up, shop for toys, watch a little pornography. Respectfully discuss what you'd both like to try, and then commit to experimenting with some of those suggestions. Perhaps take turns to offer ideas. A little encouragement may well help your partner gain in confidence and reveal his/her thoughts and fantasies once they feel that it is safe and fun to do so.

- Share information about what you like and don't like. Get to know your body, how it responds, what works for you and what doesn't. Share that information verbally, by physically guiding your partner or by moving to demonstrate how you're feeling, what you're liking, what not so much.

- Relax and agree that not every intimate encounter has to lead to full sexual intercourse. Sometimes we may be tired, stressed or simply not in the mood for full-on sex. Intimacy can also be about cuddling, touching, petting each other and that can be wonderfully enough. Sometimes sharing a bath, cooking their favourite food, giving each other a massage or snuggling up together and watching television can provide lovely intimate moments.

- Flirting with each other can be fun and yet another way to improve your sex life. Being sexy when you're out for an evening, playful, perhaps even a little provocative can build up sexual tension, excitement and remind you both of the sexual attraction and chemistry you have shared. Taking care to look after yourself, to keep yourself fit, attractive and healthy, paying attention to your personal hygiene, dressing with care; these are all things that can ensure that you continue to fancy each other and find each other desirable sexually.

Many things can interfere with a healthy sex life; work pressures, the arrival of children, health issues can all ensure that our desire for sex wanes, if not disappears completely. But a healthy sex life with our partner can strengthen the bond and connect two people in a very special way. It elevates the relationship from being simply a house share with a special friend into something far more intimate and meaningful.

Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works with stressed individuals to promote confidence and self belief, with couples experiencing relationship difficulties to improve communications and understanding and with business clients to support the health and motivation levels of individuals and teams.

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Women Take on All the Key Risks of Intercourse

Research indicates that almost all men are sexually active throughout their lives regardless of whether they are in a relationship. Women in relationships, in addition to never or rarely masturbating, for the most part engage in sexual activity initiated by their partner. Single women do not have intercourse as often or with as many partners as single men do.

For men sex is generally risk-free so naturally they are enthusiastic about any and every opportunity to engage in intercourse. A man can potentially impregnate a (different) woman with every ejaculation (or many hundreds of times in a lifetime). He never does this for two main reasons.

Firstly, there are not nearly as many women willing to have a child as there are men able to ejaculate. Secondly, successful reproduction depends not only on impregnating a woman but also on having the necessary resources for the child's survival. Men provide those resources.

A man will only support a woman if he is offered intercourse on a regular basis and if he is confident that a child is his. This explains why society has always been less tolerant of female promiscuity. As long as a man continues to support the family women often put up with male infidelity.

Any 'reproductive drive' only makes sense if it involves a woman wanting to get pregnant. Sadly this does not add up to wanting sex more than a relatively few times in a lifetime. Moreover a woman cannot be impregnated every time she engages in intercourse. Once she is pregnant she cannot produce any more offspring until after she has given birth.

Sex drive is beyond our conscious control. It is unreasonable to think that women have a sex drive that exposes them to the life-threatening risks of pregnancy and childbirth without anyconscious choice in the matter.

A woman is not biologically driven to have sex with any man she finds attractive. A woman agrees to have sex with one particular man but only once he has shown himself willing to romance her into bed (by being loving and supportive). Most women offer intercourse over the longer term to a man they identify as a reliable mate and supportive companion.

The availability of reliable contraception, such as the pill, has given women more choice over planning a family but it cannot change how women's responsiveness has evolved over millennia. Women today only think they have a sex drive because they don't risk pregnancy every time.

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3 Unusual Sex Tips Every Man Ought to Learn (A Girl's Guide to Sensational Sex)

Feeling like things are getting a little bit stale in the stack? You aren't alone! A recent sex survey of 1000 partners who had been together for more than 6 months revealed that more than 75% of women were "secretly" NOT turned on by their partner... and more than 80% had admitted to faking at least one orgasm in the last 60 days, JUST to get it "over with". Not good news if you are a man worried about fidelity, faithfulness and HER sexual satisfaction, right?

Not to worry! We got your back!

Here is a short list of 3 ways to create connection, stimulate her sense of sensuality and amp UP both of your erotic engines... without doing anything you'll regret in the morning. (although that can always be a bit fun as well:-) Curious to know more? Let's take a closer look immediately below.

1 - The BEST way to improve sex for HER? (start here)

Make it longer. The simple secret for sensational sex for a woman is actually TIME. And it's not because you need to have super human sexual stamina or staying power to impress your partner, either. It's because a woman needs 4 to 5 times MORE stimulation to climax than a man does, simply because our bodies are wired differently than yours. For example? The average sexual experience, from beginning to end... lasts about 7 minutes, according to most surveys. Yet, most women need a minimum of 20 minutes of focused attention and affection to achieve orgasm. For this reason... many women end up NOT enjoying sex nearly as much as she could, and we end up being sexually frustrated (and some say frigid!) as a result.

The bottom line? Learn to last longer in bed, and not only will her enjoyment of sex go UP, her sex drive will go up along with it! (the longer you last, the less likely it is that she'll have to fake anything at all, I promise!)

2 - Double up on Foreplay

Here is a very simple tip for men who simply have trouble with staying power. (the most common sexual "dysfunction" that there is) The truth is, if you CAN'T last long enough to help her achieve orgasm, the one thing you can do? Increase the amount of foreplay before sex begins.

Here is a quick fact:

Only about 20% of women can orgasm from conventional sex, most of the time.

Yet...

About 98% of women CAN climax from the type of sexual contact that falls into the "foreplay" range of erotic experiences. (which are a bit more spicy than we can list here!) If there was one thing I would recommend to men who worry that they aren't able to sexually satisfy their woman... it would be to simply double down on the amount of time and attention you spend on her body BEFORE sex begins. (because regardless what happens afterwards, the chances are... she's going to be more than satisfied with the sex!)

3 - Last, but NOT least?

Communication is KEY for women and sexual satisfaction. Did you know that other than foreplay... women rank CONNECTION as the #1 thing that is missing from sex?

Talking to her... either in a loving way, or even in an erotic and spicy way, are BOTH things that women admit increases intimacy, heightens sexual desire and serves as one of the easiest ways to turn her on... without needing to be built like an "Adonis" or have the sort of staying power and stamina that we covered above. (although it certainly doesn't hurt if you have a bit of both!)

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