Every one of my first five babies threw temper tantrums. When my fifth child was fourteen months of age, I learned what to improve in my parenting style so I could prevent any further tantrums from him. Within a week or so after this, he was entirely and forever free of tantrums. I then used my new-found skills with the rest of my children, all eight of them, from birth on. Not one of them ever threw a tantrum, not even the two with ADHD, one of whom also had severe Oppositional Defiant Disorder. As a young adult, this daughter recently stated, "I was an extremely, totally defiant child, but, through all the many years my mother and I struggled over which one of us was going to be in charge, I always loved the way she responded to my anger."
In helping other parents totally eliminate and prevent temper tantrums with their children, I first describe to them the difference between the two kinds of temper tantrums, Type-One and Type-Two. This is an important aspect of learning to eliminate and prevent tantrums because Type-Two tantrums need additional techniques besides the ones needed for both Type-One and Type-Two tantrums.
Type-One tantrums are really just true expressions of anger that have escalated to points of rage, possibly to extremes, or even maximums. These are expressions of out-of-control anger (or almost out-of-control). These kinds of temper tantrums happen when things occur to naturally make children angry.
Type-Two tantrums are not only expressions of anger (that might be exaggerated, unexaggerated, genuine, or even fake) but also conscious and deliberate attempts to manipulate or intimidate. These kinds of tantrums occur when children aren't given what they want.
Temper tantrum advice from the "experts" has traditionally included some aspect of ignoring the child's tantrums. This, I eventually found out, was faulty advice-but I steadfastly followed it in the beginning with my first five children. I eventually learned, after I eliminated the temper tantrums with my fifth baby, that ignoring tantrums was a portion of what caused them. In fact, it's my belief that ignoring temper tantrums pretty much guarantees they'll keep occurring. There are many other factors involved in total prevention and total elimination of tantrums from children's repertoires of behaviors, most certainly. I talk about these other factors as I present my methods, which I call, "Infant Anger Management." It all begins, however, with parents ending their "ignore-the-tantrum" behaviors.
In helping other parents totally eliminate and prevent temper tantrums with their children, I first describe to them the difference between the two kinds of temper tantrums, Type-One and Type-Two. This is an important aspect of learning to eliminate and prevent tantrums because Type-Two tantrums need additional techniques besides the ones needed for both Type-One and Type-Two tantrums.
Type-One tantrums are really just true expressions of anger that have escalated to points of rage, possibly to extremes, or even maximums. These are expressions of out-of-control anger (or almost out-of-control). These kinds of temper tantrums happen when things occur to naturally make children angry.
Type-Two tantrums are not only expressions of anger (that might be exaggerated, unexaggerated, genuine, or even fake) but also conscious and deliberate attempts to manipulate or intimidate. These kinds of tantrums occur when children aren't given what they want.
Temper tantrum advice from the "experts" has traditionally included some aspect of ignoring the child's tantrums. This, I eventually found out, was faulty advice-but I steadfastly followed it in the beginning with my first five children. I eventually learned, after I eliminated the temper tantrums with my fifth baby, that ignoring tantrums was a portion of what caused them. In fact, it's my belief that ignoring temper tantrums pretty much guarantees they'll keep occurring. There are many other factors involved in total prevention and total elimination of tantrums from children's repertoires of behaviors, most certainly. I talk about these other factors as I present my methods, which I call, "Infant Anger Management." It all begins, however, with parents ending their "ignore-the-tantrum" behaviors.
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