The Initial Approach is probably the most difficult and arguably the most important part of interacting with a new woman. The manner in which you open a woman will either get you in the door to initiate your game or it will get you a fat rejection. If you have a bad opening, you will never be able to approach women successfully.
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women successfully is to work on your looks, work on your confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and then learn how to successfully open women. The opening is not really complicated nor is it hard to pull off. There is basically only two major things you have to worry about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Always have something ready to say
A beautiful woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many, many times before you came along. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice purse." type of boring drivel. You have to distance yourself from the 1000's of losers she has rejected and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or interesting.
Since you're about to puke just overcoming approach anxiety and actually cold approach a girl, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has actually been repeatedly tested with girls and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" states that the majority of women would prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so select a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the viewpoint asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and girls respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation
Remember, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7% is actual words. This means that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any girl and it will establish a more friendly setting. In addition, keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tone and slower speech patterns, can accelerate attraction, comfort, and trust.
Give her negative body language! This means to position the front of your body away from her and just turn your head towards her. Turn your body towards her only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy). This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based on solid attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you demonstrate high value because you don't come off as desperate or needy and are showing you do not need her attention or approval.
At the same time you will have to show confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you have no idea ways to show confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it! From here you can:
Throw in time constraint techniques such as, "I have only got a minute because I'm meeting my buddies, but I have to say..." or "Another thing before I go ..." and grab her number.
Shift into A2 phase which is where you hook them by showing off your high value with such things as story telling, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the conversation, etc...
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women successfully is to work on your looks, work on your confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and then learn how to successfully open women. The opening is not really complicated nor is it hard to pull off. There is basically only two major things you have to worry about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Always have something ready to say
A beautiful woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many, many times before you came along. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice purse." type of boring drivel. You have to distance yourself from the 1000's of losers she has rejected and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or interesting.
Since you're about to puke just overcoming approach anxiety and actually cold approach a girl, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has actually been repeatedly tested with girls and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" states that the majority of women would prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so select a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the viewpoint asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and girls respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation
Remember, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7% is actual words. This means that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any girl and it will establish a more friendly setting. In addition, keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tone and slower speech patterns, can accelerate attraction, comfort, and trust.
Give her negative body language! This means to position the front of your body away from her and just turn your head towards her. Turn your body towards her only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy). This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based on solid attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you demonstrate high value because you don't come off as desperate or needy and are showing you do not need her attention or approval.
At the same time you will have to show confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you have no idea ways to show confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it! From here you can:
Throw in time constraint techniques such as, "I have only got a minute because I'm meeting my buddies, but I have to say..." or "Another thing before I go ..." and grab her number.
Shift into A2 phase which is where you hook them by showing off your high value with such things as story telling, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the conversation, etc...
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