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samedi 30 novembre 2013

Getting Over Your Post Breakup Depression

By Karli Ralston


Are you feeling depressed and lonely after your breakup? Has life lost its appeal and you can't find any joy in anything these days? You feel that if your ex would just come back to you then everything would be fine. If you could talk to your ex or feel that everything was going to be alright then you probably wouldn't feel so down.

Your sad mood and depression is actually a huge stumbling block when it comes to reuniting with your ex. You might think that your ex would be touched and humbled if they knew how upset and sad you were without them but the opposite is true. People tend to avoid others who are depressed or emotionally upset. Even though it is completely understandable that you might be a little sad in the wake of your breakup, it is far too easy to let this emotion dominate your mood. Depression is a slippery slope and one that is very difficult to avoid once you allow it to take hold of you. If you have a desire to get back together with your ex then you should work to avoid being depressed and focus on improving your mood.

One sure way to change your mood and trick yourself into being happy is to laugh. While you might say that you have nothing to laugh about, finding something external to yourself to laugh at is possible. Going to a local comedy club or watching some hilarious movies are two great ways to instantly change your mood and start laughing again. If you're not ready to go out in public quite yet, watching some of your favorite comedies at home with some of your favorite foods to provide some added comfort might be in order. Anything that makes you laugh is good medicine for you after your breakup and you will find that you will begin to feel better about life very quickly.

A little exercise might be helpful to you also. You don't have to become an exercise fanatic or spend hours at the gym to reap the benefits of exercise. Going for a walk or riding a bike is often enough to take your mind off of your troubles and improve your mood. When we exercise, our body releases mood enhancing chemicals that have been shown to help us to feel better about life. As an added benefit, you will be improving your overall physical health and you will be getting out of the house. Sometimes a little change of scenery can help improve your mood also.

Making a conscious effort to improve your overall mood and your confidence is the cornerstone of pulling yourself out of this depression. Once you start doing things for yourself and taking care of yourself there is a snowball effect that takes place. Even if you have to force yourself to do some of these things at first, eventually you begin to feel better about yourself and your life. Reading some good books on psychology and relationships can help you to understand yourself and begin the healing process. Understanding that all of us, your ex included, have some emotional baggage and focusing on becoming strong and self-confident has a healing effect. Being gentle and kind to yourself is your first step towards emotional healing and feeling good about your life and your current situation. Things might seem pretty bad right now but things will change. You are a good person and you deserve to be loved. You're not a piece of garbage and the sooner you understand that, the sooner your ex will see that you're a good person also.

A breakup can be a devastating event in your life. It's not something that most people take lightly. When we are rejected by someone that we truly love it can have a debilitating effect on our life. Of course, we know that things will change and we will heal but many of us waste far too much time being sad and lonely and prolong the amount of time it will take to get our lives together and become attractive to our ex again. Yes, by shortening the amount of time you grieve over your breakup, you can shorten the amount of time it is going to take to get back together with the one you love. Showing your ex that you're strong, self-confident and that you have something to offer in life is an important part of being attractive to them. Remember that people like to be around positive, optimistic people and they are less likely to be attracted to depressed, sad people.




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