Patience is probably a virtue that you wish you had when it came to getting back together with your girlfriend. The torture of every day apart from her and the anguish that goes along with that. Worrying that with every passing day the chance of her finding someone else and moving on with her life without you increases. With every passing day you feel her drift away from you. You become less and less important to her and you're sure that the odds of her coming back to you grow slim. You search for an answer. You try to solve the riddle and understand what you need to do to get her back before it's too late.
Most men will admit that after a breakup they become more than a little emotional. Even the strongest of us become fearful and anxious when the woman we love rejects us. We become jealous of any guy that comes near her and anxious that she will get into another relationship and forget about us. These emotions and a lack of patience cause us to do sometimes drastic things to shorten the amount of time that it might take to win our ex back. We become desperate due to our fear of loss and we wind up doing things to further destroy our relationship with the one we love.
A common reaction to this fear and all these emotions is to come up with a plan or scheme to get our ex back that goes something like this. We first try to apologize to our ex. We might make a list of things that we did wrong or things that we didn't do when we were in the relationship. We promise to do everything right. We tell our ex that we're sorry and that everything will be fine if they will only give us a second chance. We can change and we might even show our ex the things that we have begun to change.
Of course, that didn't solve your problem so you came up with a new plan. You felt that if you were kind to her and acted like everything was going to be fine then she would take you back. You possibly even bought her a present. You thought you would be clever and tell her that it was a surprise that you hadn't told her about but that you wanted her to gave it. When none of that worked you broke down in front of her. Perhaps you even shed some tears and begged her to give you another chance. Your love for her is real and your devotion is true but her heart has turned cold towards you.
As you probably already know, tactics such as these don't work. These are all methods that every guy tries after a breakup and they only make matters worse. Your instinct might be telling you that you're being original or clever but these are only the acts of a desperate man who is afraid of losing something very important in his life. You are coming from a place of fear and this fear will make you do things that you will regret later. You will remember these acts and shake your head in disbelief one day. Right now you need to relax, get your mind right and understand what will actually make her want to come back to you.
In order to change your ex-girlfriend's mind you need to understand how women think. The only thing that will get your girlfriend to come back to you is love. So, in order for her to change her mind she has to feel a deep and abiding love for you again. You see, it's more than a decision that she made between the two of you when she left. She told all of her friends and her family that she was breaking up with you. When she comes back to you, she is going to have to explain everything to all of those people why she has changed her mind and the only thing that can make a woman do something like that is a form of female insanity called love.
Emotions should be at the core of your plan to win her back and they should also be absent in your decision making when it comes to your plan. It is simple to make her fall in love with you again. You did it before. At that time though, you weren't as emotionally charged as you are right now. Your plan needs to be cold and calculating and without emotions. It is only when we men become emotionally involved that we make mistakes after a relationship ends. If you didn't care then it would be simple for you to get her back. You love her though so you're going to have to keep your emotions in check and learn a little patience if you hope to win her over again.
Most men will admit that after a breakup they become more than a little emotional. Even the strongest of us become fearful and anxious when the woman we love rejects us. We become jealous of any guy that comes near her and anxious that she will get into another relationship and forget about us. These emotions and a lack of patience cause us to do sometimes drastic things to shorten the amount of time that it might take to win our ex back. We become desperate due to our fear of loss and we wind up doing things to further destroy our relationship with the one we love.
A common reaction to this fear and all these emotions is to come up with a plan or scheme to get our ex back that goes something like this. We first try to apologize to our ex. We might make a list of things that we did wrong or things that we didn't do when we were in the relationship. We promise to do everything right. We tell our ex that we're sorry and that everything will be fine if they will only give us a second chance. We can change and we might even show our ex the things that we have begun to change.
Of course, that didn't solve your problem so you came up with a new plan. You felt that if you were kind to her and acted like everything was going to be fine then she would take you back. You possibly even bought her a present. You thought you would be clever and tell her that it was a surprise that you hadn't told her about but that you wanted her to gave it. When none of that worked you broke down in front of her. Perhaps you even shed some tears and begged her to give you another chance. Your love for her is real and your devotion is true but her heart has turned cold towards you.
As you probably already know, tactics such as these don't work. These are all methods that every guy tries after a breakup and they only make matters worse. Your instinct might be telling you that you're being original or clever but these are only the acts of a desperate man who is afraid of losing something very important in his life. You are coming from a place of fear and this fear will make you do things that you will regret later. You will remember these acts and shake your head in disbelief one day. Right now you need to relax, get your mind right and understand what will actually make her want to come back to you.
In order to change your ex-girlfriend's mind you need to understand how women think. The only thing that will get your girlfriend to come back to you is love. So, in order for her to change her mind she has to feel a deep and abiding love for you again. You see, it's more than a decision that she made between the two of you when she left. She told all of her friends and her family that she was breaking up with you. When she comes back to you, she is going to have to explain everything to all of those people why she has changed her mind and the only thing that can make a woman do something like that is a form of female insanity called love.
Emotions should be at the core of your plan to win her back and they should also be absent in your decision making when it comes to your plan. It is simple to make her fall in love with you again. You did it before. At that time though, you weren't as emotionally charged as you are right now. Your plan needs to be cold and calculating and without emotions. It is only when we men become emotionally involved that we make mistakes after a relationship ends. If you didn't care then it would be simple for you to get her back. You love her though so you're going to have to keep your emotions in check and learn a little patience if you hope to win her over again.
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