What is today called Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD, has been a recognized condition, albeit perceived in many ways, for likely hundreds of years. Stimulants have been used for treating it for more than seven decades now. However, about fifteen years ago, I still believed that ADHD wasn't real and that it might just an excuse for lazy parenting.
But then, in spite of my denial, my first two kids from my second marriage developed into pre-teens and developed problems in completing their school assignments, even as otherwise excellent students. These two children had always resisted doing anything they didn't like doing, and they had never cooperated by doing their fair allotment of the household chores as my older ten children had. Their floundering at school, though, was what caused me to belatedly get them in for thorough assessments, resulting in positive diagnoses for ADHD and ADD.
My daughter, the younger of the two, had ADHD, and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Many parents with ODD children apparently give up on them, letting them ultimately be in charge of themselves. Though I felt like it, I refused to let my daughter be in full charge of herself because that would have increased her risk within the community. But she resisted every effort I made to be in charge of her.
My son's ADD didn't involve hyperactivity, and his symptoms weren't as much "in my face" as my daughter's were. Now that he's an adult, he doesn't think he's had ADD. I had ten non-ADHD kids in my first marriage, though, and because these two children were diagnosed after thorough medical assessments, I'm convinced they've both been afflicted with this ailment (as has been their father). I was so frustrated with all of the challenges these two children presented that I was quite willing to medicate them. They tried the whole gamut of medications but didn't like the side effects, and they wouldn't take them.
During a particular discussion with this son as a teen-when I was thoroughly frustrated with his behavior-I offered an observation. He didn't laugh, so I guess he didn't appreciate the humor embedded in my emphatic remark, "You're the second most annoying person I ever gave birth to." And he was. His younger sister was the first. For years I despaired of them learning the things I was trying to teach them. But they both are doing quite well now.
My ADHD children were the same as my later non-ADHD children when it came to tantrums. My first five babies all threw them...but the last eight didn't. The fifth, at fourteen months, was cured roughly a week after I found out what I needed to change in my parenting style. What I learned about preventing tantrums with my fifth baby worked equally well will both of my ADHD children as it did with the rest. I believe parents can have tantrum-free ADHD children, too.
But then, in spite of my denial, my first two kids from my second marriage developed into pre-teens and developed problems in completing their school assignments, even as otherwise excellent students. These two children had always resisted doing anything they didn't like doing, and they had never cooperated by doing their fair allotment of the household chores as my older ten children had. Their floundering at school, though, was what caused me to belatedly get them in for thorough assessments, resulting in positive diagnoses for ADHD and ADD.
My daughter, the younger of the two, had ADHD, and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Many parents with ODD children apparently give up on them, letting them ultimately be in charge of themselves. Though I felt like it, I refused to let my daughter be in full charge of herself because that would have increased her risk within the community. But she resisted every effort I made to be in charge of her.
My son's ADD didn't involve hyperactivity, and his symptoms weren't as much "in my face" as my daughter's were. Now that he's an adult, he doesn't think he's had ADD. I had ten non-ADHD kids in my first marriage, though, and because these two children were diagnosed after thorough medical assessments, I'm convinced they've both been afflicted with this ailment (as has been their father). I was so frustrated with all of the challenges these two children presented that I was quite willing to medicate them. They tried the whole gamut of medications but didn't like the side effects, and they wouldn't take them.
During a particular discussion with this son as a teen-when I was thoroughly frustrated with his behavior-I offered an observation. He didn't laugh, so I guess he didn't appreciate the humor embedded in my emphatic remark, "You're the second most annoying person I ever gave birth to." And he was. His younger sister was the first. For years I despaired of them learning the things I was trying to teach them. But they both are doing quite well now.
My ADHD children were the same as my later non-ADHD children when it came to tantrums. My first five babies all threw them...but the last eight didn't. The fifth, at fourteen months, was cured roughly a week after I found out what I needed to change in my parenting style. What I learned about preventing tantrums with my fifth baby worked equally well will both of my ADHD children as it did with the rest. I believe parents can have tantrum-free ADHD children, too.
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