How, you ask, can I be so sure it's possible to raise kids free of temper tantrums when parenting experts tell us it's not possible? My first five babies all threw temper tantrums...and my last eight did not. My fifth baby was around fourteen months old when I figured out what to change in my parenting style so that he became forever free of temper tantrums within about a week.
With each of my last eight children I applied these same techniques, from the time they were born, on. None of them ever threw tantrums. But I'm not by any means one of very few parents who have consistently raised tantrum-free children. I have personally spoken to hundreds of them, and I would think there have been many millions worldwide, over time.
If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.
Parents of tantrum-free children probably don't usually know exactly what it is they've done differently from what parents of tantrum-throwers have. My guess is this is because they haven't had the kinds of failures I've had to compare with their successes. I'm guessing, in other words, that most parents who raise tantrum-free kids are successful at doing it with all of their kids from the very beginning of their parenting. Somehow they're able to get on the right track at the start of their parenting and don't get into following the standard, but faulty, tantrum advice. They don't have the before and after examples like I did so they can tell us what they were doing when they were failing and what they changed in order to succeed.
Despite the fact that many of these parents can't articulate what it was they did that created tantrum-free children, their experience still gives support to my theory. These parents demonstrate that temper-tantrum-free child rearing is very possible for those who discover the right techniques to use. Any parents who've been able to bring up tantrum-free kids are invited to list their experiences on my website's Tantrum Free Club page, so they can join the effort to convince others that tantrum-free childrearing is entirely possible. And any parents who weren't able to raise tantrum-free children are welcome to vent and share their most embarrassing and worst ever stories about temper tantrums on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums webpage.
With each of my last eight children I applied these same techniques, from the time they were born, on. None of them ever threw tantrums. But I'm not by any means one of very few parents who have consistently raised tantrum-free children. I have personally spoken to hundreds of them, and I would think there have been many millions worldwide, over time.
If parenting experts should be believed when they tell us that virtually all children throw temper tantrums, then how could we account for the many parents who claim their children have never thrown them? Do we conclude that these parents are lying? Or do we conclude that the theory of tantrum inevitability is incorrect? It's easy for me to conclude the latter because I'm one of those parents who've raised some tantrum-free kids, and I know I'm not lying about it.
Parents of tantrum-free children probably don't usually know exactly what it is they've done differently from what parents of tantrum-throwers have. My guess is this is because they haven't had the kinds of failures I've had to compare with their successes. I'm guessing, in other words, that most parents who raise tantrum-free kids are successful at doing it with all of their kids from the very beginning of their parenting. Somehow they're able to get on the right track at the start of their parenting and don't get into following the standard, but faulty, tantrum advice. They don't have the before and after examples like I did so they can tell us what they were doing when they were failing and what they changed in order to succeed.
Despite the fact that many of these parents can't articulate what it was they did that created tantrum-free children, their experience still gives support to my theory. These parents demonstrate that temper-tantrum-free child rearing is very possible for those who discover the right techniques to use. Any parents who've been able to bring up tantrum-free kids are invited to list their experiences on my website's Tantrum Free Club page, so they can join the effort to convince others that tantrum-free childrearing is entirely possible. And any parents who weren't able to raise tantrum-free children are welcome to vent and share their most embarrassing and worst ever stories about temper tantrums on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums webpage.
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