If you think you can just learn a secret system or technique and be successful with women, you're in for a rude awakening. You could remember a ton of lines and routines and head out and approach girls. This will succeed just to break the ice and get your foot in the door. To effectively pickup girls, you need to emotionally engage a woman, and not just use mechanical techniques.
Many men have the mistaken belief that pickup methods are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Inevitably however, effectively attracting a woman is about making a special emotional connection in between you two. It's not only about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adapt and adjust to the kind of person she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have actually approached a girl and effectively opened the door, you need to instantly shift into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a girl and bring her in to your reality. There are three primary means to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is behaving cocky in a funny way. Not being outright disrespectful or a comedian, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
Girl: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a K or C ?
Girl: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to talk to you anymore ...
Girl: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a good friend, but every Kathy who spells it with a K I've ever met has been such a party girl.. horrible influences on my life...
The most vital element of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Gimmicks and routines.
There are all kinds of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. 1 of the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A girl will ooh and aah at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a girl with your trick.
Once again, this means to bring her in to your reality. This is done by involving her and absorbing her in to your magic trick. You do a trick that actively engages her in to the trick. Things like reading her mind or guessing the letter she's thinking etc. works well to engage her feelings.
C) Reading and understanding her.
Women will be irresistibly drawn to you if you understand them as a person and acknowledge the kind of person she is. The following is an sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I initially talked to you, you seemed type of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are 2 kinds of people in this world. Those that observe and those who are observed, and you appear a lot more like the observer type of person. I think when people initially meet you, they'll think you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world with your emotions and just want to make sure that the people you allow into your life are genuinely good people. But that's only a guard you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having a good time, you can let go and be yourself. And that's just what you're looking for in life, i believe, people that you can be real with and who truly understands you as a person.
This is one of the most effective ways to instantaneously emotionally engage a girl. This will instantly create powerful attraction along with connection. However, you really need to be observant and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you use has no meaning unless you involve a girl and make an emotional connection. Keep the dull talk to a minimum. When you open the door and get in, immediately involve her emotions with the above methods.
Many men have the mistaken belief that pickup methods are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Inevitably however, effectively attracting a woman is about making a special emotional connection in between you two. It's not only about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adapt and adjust to the kind of person she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have actually approached a girl and effectively opened the door, you need to instantly shift into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a girl and bring her in to your reality. There are three primary means to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is behaving cocky in a funny way. Not being outright disrespectful or a comedian, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
Girl: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a K or C ?
Girl: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to talk to you anymore ...
Girl: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a good friend, but every Kathy who spells it with a K I've ever met has been such a party girl.. horrible influences on my life...
The most vital element of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Gimmicks and routines.
There are all kinds of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. 1 of the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A girl will ooh and aah at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a girl with your trick.
Once again, this means to bring her in to your reality. This is done by involving her and absorbing her in to your magic trick. You do a trick that actively engages her in to the trick. Things like reading her mind or guessing the letter she's thinking etc. works well to engage her feelings.
C) Reading and understanding her.
Women will be irresistibly drawn to you if you understand them as a person and acknowledge the kind of person she is. The following is an sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I initially talked to you, you seemed type of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are 2 kinds of people in this world. Those that observe and those who are observed, and you appear a lot more like the observer type of person. I think when people initially meet you, they'll think you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world with your emotions and just want to make sure that the people you allow into your life are genuinely good people. But that's only a guard you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having a good time, you can let go and be yourself. And that's just what you're looking for in life, i believe, people that you can be real with and who truly understands you as a person.
This is one of the most effective ways to instantaneously emotionally engage a girl. This will instantly create powerful attraction along with connection. However, you really need to be observant and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you use has no meaning unless you involve a girl and make an emotional connection. Keep the dull talk to a minimum. When you open the door and get in, immediately involve her emotions with the above methods.
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