Many men have a hard time going up to and hitting on women because men have a misconception that women hate being hit on. This is a myth that women have perpetuated and a myth that men have been completely duped into. Belief in this false myth causes most men to hate and fear approaching and hitting on women. He'll think, "Women hate being hit on by men so if I go up to her, she'll think I'm a creep..."
Most women will claim they don't really like it or that it annoys them but the truth is, women love being hit on. They love it and can't get enough of it. It is a good, quick stroke for their ego and self esteem. Because all women want to feel attractive and desirable, a random stranger approaching them and hitting on them confirms that they are in fact desirable.
Most women, no matter how hot they are, will have some level of self consciousness and doubt about their attractiveness factor. The act of men hitting on them serves to alleviate those uncertainties and as a result corroborate their attractiveness.
If you have ever overheard women gabbing about how they dislike being hit on or a female buddy admitted to you how irritating it is, you've just experienced the female psychology at work. Although they secretly enjoy it, they can not explicitly confess to this. Since the female social dynamic demands it, they have to hide it and pretend to dislike it.
For women (and men to some extent), their perceived social status is of the utmost importance. They have to defend this social status within their group dynamic at all costs. They are in risk of being labeled as attention-mongers or sluts if they freely admit to like being hit on. Labels such as these will reduce their social value and so should be avoided at all costs.
Furthermore, if women loathed attention and being hit on, makeup would be a dead business instead of the $170 billion dollar business it is. They would put on motel curtains and shapeless T-shirts, and the whole beauty business would not exist. There are those men, though, that have been duped into believing another myth. That women do not dress up for guys, they dress up for other women.
There is some truth to this and it has to do with some kind of complicated social group dynamics that only sociologists can decipher. However, this means nothing in the greater scheme of attracting women because even if this is true, ultimately, this means women are competing with each other for male attention. They dress up for other women so that they can look better than them or outdo them, but for what purpose? Besides the psychological ego gratification type explanations, ultimately, they do this to compete for male validation and male attention.
However, there is a big catch to this. Women love being hit on by genuine men hitting on them properly. If you think you can go up to any woman and say garbage pickup lines or rude, condescending sexual innuendos like "I like your butt" and think that they will love it, you are retarded. This is not hitting on women, this is being a chump that no woman will accept. Therefore, you must learn the proper way to hit on women and the proper things to say.
Recognize, know, and believe that women want and like being hit on. They want you to come up to them and speak with them, assuming you look nice and you do it properly. Demolish the fake dogma in your mind that thinks that women will think you're a creep if you hit on them. By altering this mindset, you are halfway to success to hitting on women.
Most women will claim they don't really like it or that it annoys them but the truth is, women love being hit on. They love it and can't get enough of it. It is a good, quick stroke for their ego and self esteem. Because all women want to feel attractive and desirable, a random stranger approaching them and hitting on them confirms that they are in fact desirable.
Most women, no matter how hot they are, will have some level of self consciousness and doubt about their attractiveness factor. The act of men hitting on them serves to alleviate those uncertainties and as a result corroborate their attractiveness.
If you have ever overheard women gabbing about how they dislike being hit on or a female buddy admitted to you how irritating it is, you've just experienced the female psychology at work. Although they secretly enjoy it, they can not explicitly confess to this. Since the female social dynamic demands it, they have to hide it and pretend to dislike it.
For women (and men to some extent), their perceived social status is of the utmost importance. They have to defend this social status within their group dynamic at all costs. They are in risk of being labeled as attention-mongers or sluts if they freely admit to like being hit on. Labels such as these will reduce their social value and so should be avoided at all costs.
Furthermore, if women loathed attention and being hit on, makeup would be a dead business instead of the $170 billion dollar business it is. They would put on motel curtains and shapeless T-shirts, and the whole beauty business would not exist. There are those men, though, that have been duped into believing another myth. That women do not dress up for guys, they dress up for other women.
There is some truth to this and it has to do with some kind of complicated social group dynamics that only sociologists can decipher. However, this means nothing in the greater scheme of attracting women because even if this is true, ultimately, this means women are competing with each other for male attention. They dress up for other women so that they can look better than them or outdo them, but for what purpose? Besides the psychological ego gratification type explanations, ultimately, they do this to compete for male validation and male attention.
However, there is a big catch to this. Women love being hit on by genuine men hitting on them properly. If you think you can go up to any woman and say garbage pickup lines or rude, condescending sexual innuendos like "I like your butt" and think that they will love it, you are retarded. This is not hitting on women, this is being a chump that no woman will accept. Therefore, you must learn the proper way to hit on women and the proper things to say.
Recognize, know, and believe that women want and like being hit on. They want you to come up to them and speak with them, assuming you look nice and you do it properly. Demolish the fake dogma in your mind that thinks that women will think you're a creep if you hit on them. By altering this mindset, you are halfway to success to hitting on women.
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