Dr. Laura Kastner PhD, a clinical psychologist and author, spoke with Lon Woodbury on Parenting Choices for Struggling Teens, a radio talk show hosted on L.A. Talk Radio, about raising children, getting from CALM to wise. CALM is an acronym for constructive steps a parent can take to establish self-control when confronted by a distraught teen. During the interview, she explained a variety of parental approaches based on a parent's strong self-regulation that worked remarkably well.
Lon Woodbury, the founder of Woodbury Reports, is an educational specialist who has actually worked with parents and rebellious adolescents since 1984. Besides his job as an educational adviser, he is a popular author, and his Parent Empowerment book series are available on Kindle books.
About Dr. Laura Kastner
Dr. Laura Kastner has authored four books on parenting: The Seven Year Stretch, The Launching Years, Getting to Calm, and Wise-Minded Parenting. She is a clinical psychologist with her own private practice, as well as a clinical professor, with positions in a variety of departments, including Psychology, Psychiatry and the Behavioral Science departments at the University of Washington.
The Key of Parenting Children, Getting from CALM to sensible
One of the most vital parenting skills a mother or father can learn when it comes to managing children, is getting to CALM, pointed out Dr. Kastner. Self-control is required when a teen confronts a parent, otherwise the situation usually heats up into a shouting and yelling match. Moms and dads have to find ways to preserve their own self-control to ensure that they can actually begin to model self-control for their teenagers.
CALM, she explained, is an acronym for the steps a parent can use to establish self-control when in conflict with their teen. C is for cool down and breathe deeply; A is for assessing your options; L is for listening with empathy; and M is mapping your plan.
In discussing why most teens behave in such a volatile way, the professor explained that at around the age of thirteen, kids were in the midst of a biological mental change that was hard wired through evolution. Their brains resembled a 'website that was under construction;' in other words, they were beginning the long climb to adulthood and independent living. How teenagers responded to this biological change really depended entirely on their personality. Some were quiet; some looked for trouble and danger; and others were prone to depression. Parents needed to quit acting from their own emotional states, and focus on creating a calm, clear, and assertive parenting style.
Lon Woodbury, the founder of Woodbury Reports, is an educational specialist who has actually worked with parents and rebellious adolescents since 1984. Besides his job as an educational adviser, he is a popular author, and his Parent Empowerment book series are available on Kindle books.
About Dr. Laura Kastner
Dr. Laura Kastner has authored four books on parenting: The Seven Year Stretch, The Launching Years, Getting to Calm, and Wise-Minded Parenting. She is a clinical psychologist with her own private practice, as well as a clinical professor, with positions in a variety of departments, including Psychology, Psychiatry and the Behavioral Science departments at the University of Washington.
The Key of Parenting Children, Getting from CALM to sensible
One of the most vital parenting skills a mother or father can learn when it comes to managing children, is getting to CALM, pointed out Dr. Kastner. Self-control is required when a teen confronts a parent, otherwise the situation usually heats up into a shouting and yelling match. Moms and dads have to find ways to preserve their own self-control to ensure that they can actually begin to model self-control for their teenagers.
CALM, she explained, is an acronym for the steps a parent can use to establish self-control when in conflict with their teen. C is for cool down and breathe deeply; A is for assessing your options; L is for listening with empathy; and M is mapping your plan.
In discussing why most teens behave in such a volatile way, the professor explained that at around the age of thirteen, kids were in the midst of a biological mental change that was hard wired through evolution. Their brains resembled a 'website that was under construction;' in other words, they were beginning the long climb to adulthood and independent living. How teenagers responded to this biological change really depended entirely on their personality. Some were quiet; some looked for trouble and danger; and others were prone to depression. Parents needed to quit acting from their own emotional states, and focus on creating a calm, clear, and assertive parenting style.
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Lon Woodbury, the founder of Struggling Teens, has recorded the entire interview on his weekly L.A. Talk Radio show for people to listen to at their convenience.
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