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mardi 10 décembre 2013

Being Patient When Trying To Get Your Girlfriend Back

By Russell Hood


For most of us guys, common sense goes right out the window after a breakup. We will try anything and everything to show the woman we love how important she is to us but what do you do when it seems like she doesn't care at all? While you might love your ex girlfriend or your wife with all your heart, it seems nothing is going to sway her decision and bring her back to you. You wind up feeling like you're doing everything wrong. You're anxious and scared to death that this truly is the end of your relationship unless you can figure her out and convince her that your relationship is worth saving.

Getting past that pain and those emotions just isn't as easy as people might lead you to believe. You want to get past the pain. You want to begin to live your life again but it seems that no matter what you do you're faced with these emotions day in and day out. Sure, you might have a good day or two but when you least expect it, those feelings come to the surface again and you feel like you're right back where you were before.

Dealing with your emotions over your breakup is very important. Regaining your feeling of self worth and your own self-confidence is necessary for you to function as a normal human being again. Ah, to feel normal again! Wouldn't that be awesome? It will happen for you. You need to know this no matter if you want to move past your relationship or if you hope to get back together with your ex. Getting rid of those feelings that harm us and replacing them with emotions that help you is a necessary step in your healing process and becoming the kind of person that you were before your breakup.

For instance, you have probably thought long and hard about this. You want to make things right again between you and your girlfriend so you do what comes naturally. That means that you try apologizing at first. You may even mean it. You promise to change. You promise to never do whatever it was that you think caused your breakup or you promise to always do whatever it was that you didn't do that caused your breakup.

If she needs your help or wants to enjoy your company, she will call you. In a healthy relationship there is equal give and take. Gifts given now will only make her angry thinking about how you didn't give her gifts when you were together. Thoughtful phone calls to check on her will remind her of the times that you neglected her. Telling her that you love her will be too little too late and having to hear that awkward silence isn't going to help your male ego at all.

Loving yourself, accepting yourself as you are is important. In this life there are going to be times when you will be alone. You have to be your own best friend.

Next, remember that actions mean everything and words mean almost nothing to a woman. You can talk all day long about what you're going to do with your life. She will be filled with doubt and be telling herself that it will never happen. On the other hand, improving yourself in various areas of your life such as your physique, eating habits, appearance, social status or career without talking about it, speaks volumes. Do something great with your life that you always dreamed of and then let her find out about it. Actions speak louder than words to a woman.

Getting past the pain of your breakup isn't an easy process. There are going to be times when you feel like you are cured but those black thoughts and feelings of despair might be right around the corner for you. Understanding this and being patient with yourself is something to keep in mind. You can and will feel better one day soon and the pain from this breakup will be a distant memory.




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