Designing The Relationship You Want - Make Your Wife Love You - Step 3 Your Secret Identity Project

Tony Stark: There's been speculation that I was involved in the events that occurred on the freeway and the rooftop...

Christine Everheart: I'm sorry, Mr. Stark, but do you honestly expect us to believe that that was a bodyguard in a suit that conveniently appeared, despite the fact that...

Tony Stark: I know that it's confusing. It is one thing to question the official story, and another thing entirely to make wild accusations, or insinuate that I'm a superhero.

Christine Everheart: I never said you were a superhero.

Tony Stark: Didn't?

Christine Everheart: Mmm-mmm.

Tony Stark: Well, good, because that would be outlandish and, uh, fantastic. I'm just not the hero type. Clearly. With this laundry list of character defects, all the mistakes I've made, largely public.

Rhodey: [whispers to Tony] Just stick to the cards, man.

Tony Stark: Yeah, okay.

Tony Stark: [holds up his notes and pauses] The truth is...

Tony Stark: [puts cards down] I am Iron Man.

- Iron Man (2008) [source: IMDB.com]

Last lesson I introduced you to the concept of the secret identity project. You saw how starting and keeping focused on designing and living your unique man-adventure is the first step toward curing the ordinary-itis that infects most men's lives and relationships.

In this article, I will provide you with greater detail on exactly how to start your very own secret identity project today.

How to Start Your Secret Identity Project

What you will need.

1. a hobby with a local chapter, club, class or group that meets at least once per week.

2. put it on the calendar

3. go to it.

4. pick a goal for yourself within the month to demonstrate your progress in public.

For example, maybe you want to learn guitar. You sign up for classes, or if you are broke, you find a friend or relative to agree to teach you at least once per week. You put the classes on the calendar. You pick a goal: learn one song and perform it at open mike night in 28 days.

Your goal must be ambitious and must be a public demonstration of your skill. A karate tournament. A photography exhibit at the public library where you'll display some of your photos. A slam dunk contest run by the local radio. etc.

See what we're doing? You go do your work with a group. That means you gotta show up. That means you won't put it off. You won't not go to the gym and say that you did.

And that goal. That's gonna keep you honest. It's either going to be a public demonstration of what you can accomplish in a short time or it's gonna be a public hanging. No in between. No place to hide. That's the idea.

And if you think failing to learn that song has consequences. What have been the consequences of you being checked out of your life for the last few years? What will be the consequences of not setting public goals like that for yourself long term in your life?

As William Wallace says:

Aye, fight and you may die. Run, and you'll live... at least a while...

Remember, you won't get off the island by doing the same stuff you always did.

So, get to work on your Secret Identity Project. And don't tell the wife it's about getting off the island. Don't tell her that this is important. Downplay the thing. It's nothing, you'll tell her. My guess is you won't have to work very hard to convince her of that. She's used to your projects not amounting to much. Am I right?

Don't sweat it. That's not your fault. And more importantly, all that is about to change.

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Treats you like you are old news?

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• Access and express your feelings.
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She won't even recognize you by the end of the month.

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