Protecting our wives spiritually is not as daunting a task as it may sound. God has already given us the tools to do this. Most of us know that there are dark forces that seek to wreak havoc on our marriages and destroy them. By doing our part in defending our marriage from these dark forces, we close the door on things that seek to destroy us and open up the door to many blessings in our lives, helping our wives and hence our marriages thrive.
There are several ways that we can spiritually protect our wives. Not allowing anything impure into our lives and homes is a great start. When I speak of impure, I mean anything immoral and lustful. Pornography for instance, should have no place in our marriages. The destructive influence it has on marriages is becoming much more documented and they shouldn't be thought of as the ranting's of some zealous "holy roller". Unfortunately many husbands and wives can testify to the damage it has done to their relationships. Spiritually it changes the way men view women, and the way women view themselves. When a husband allows this, it opens up the door to more sinful activity including full blown adultery.
One thing to remember is that your body is for your wife, and her body is for you. No one else's body or image has any place in your marriage. Jesus said is Matthew 5:27-28 "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." This pretty much means that anytime we look at someone other than our spouse with lust or sexual desire, we are committing adultery in our hearts. Looking at pornography is definitely looking with lust, and it also opens up our homes to spiritual attack and further depravity.
Another way to spiritually protect our wives is by keeping bad influences out of your marriage. One of the biggest influences we have in our lives is our friends. You want to be sure that you surround yourself with friends who will influence you to do the right thing when it concerns your wife. If you have an argument, they should encourage you to work it out. If there is something you should be doing to bless your marriage, they should be encouraging you to do so. You should have friends who are going to be for you and your wife, not someone who assists in damaging your relationship. Any so called friend that goes out of their way to talk bad about your spouse, or put your spouse in a negative context is not a friend you should have. The influence of other people falls under a spiritual context because they can affect our thoughts and behaviors. Remember, surrounding yourself with people who are for your marriage no matter what is a good way to safe guard both you and your wife from spiritual attack.
Something else we must be mindful of is protection against resentment and bitterness. Ephesians 4:26-27 states "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold." Now it's not wrong for you and your wife to have an argument or even get a little angry with each other at times. The point here is, do not allow your anger to bring you to sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. In other words, do not go to bed angry at each other. Get things resolved before you go to sleep, or at least get the waters of forgiveness, understanding, and reconciliation flowing before you go to bed. If we go to bed angry, this gives the devil a foothold, and allows the poisons of bitterness and resentment to begin to take root. These toxins can destroy your marriage, so make every effort not to go to bed angry so that when you and your wife wake up, you start off the day fresh with love and hope and not with the weight of anger and resentment from the day before.
By far the best way to spiritually protect our wives is for us to be spiritually healthy ourselves. Our hearts should be right with God. We should desire purity and the blessing of God on our lives. We should be praying for our wives and with our wives. Our prayers will protect our wives from all forms of attack. It will bring much comfort and confidence to your wife when she knows and even hears your prayers for her and your family.
Also, understanding God's word, his blessings, and protection will truly equip us to be the spiritual protector of our wives. When we are spiritually healthy, we will have confidence and know that God is hearing us. Being spiritually strong is not only a great defense, but is also the best offense against the forces of darkness that desire to tear your marriage apart. Men, when we are spiritually strong, we will be blessed in the city and blessed in the field (Deuteronomy 28:3) All that we put our hands to will be blessed, and our wives will live in freedom and security knowing that they are spiritually protected because of their God honoring and God fearing husbands.
What are some other ways that we can spiritually protect our wives? Please comment and let us know.
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