The Ultimate Betrayal

Still reeling from finding out that your partner has had an affair, which let's face it is pretty horrifying in itself, only to be informed by the love rat that they are in love with the other person too. Your world has just come crashing down around you and has very quickly begun to spiral out of control.

A physically intimate affair is bad enough but what happens if it also comes with emotions? Or worse still, what if they have just gone and fallen in love with someone else?

Affairs based on sex are generally due to only a couple of reasons. The first is that the cheating spouse does not feel sexually fulfilled at home either due to the frequency of love-making (because let's be honest, the longer you are with someone the less frequent sex becomes). The second is that even if sex happens on a regular basis, most couples get in to a routine and sex can become a little boring, stale even so the adulterer or adulteress looks elsewhere for variety. As hurtful as these situations might be, they are to some degree understandable and recoverable.

If your spouse has fallen in love with someone else then that is a whole other ball game. It comes about from a crack in the foundations in your relationship that was probably always there but always papered over and ignored. It starts with a relationship that has probably run its natural course and both you and your partner should probably part ways and move on to pastures new but instead, due to our inherent fear of being alone, do the opposite and get married. You are on a downhill slope from here and unless one or both of you is brave enough to confront the situation, hurt and betrayal are going to be par for the course as Mr or Mrs Right are going to show up eventually and then whether physically, emotionally or both, someone is going to get hurt.

So what is the Ultimate Betrayal? Is it physically cheating? Emotionally cheating? Or being in a relationship which has been jammed to fit like a puzzle piece that doesn't belong but you're too lazy to find where it goes?

My belief is that the last one is the Ultimate Betrayal as not only are you betraying your spouse, or them you, but you're betraying yourself in settling for something less than true happiness.

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"Many people will walk in & out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart" - Eleanor Roosevelt.