Jason Wynkoop, Clinical Director of EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago, spoke to Woodbury and co-host Liz McGhee on the Parent Choices for Struggling Teens radio show about the meaning of searching for real self-esteem for adolescents. The host of the L.A. Talk Radio show, Lon Woodbury, is an independent educational consultant who has worked with families and struggling teens since 1984. The show's co-host, Elizabeth McGhee, is the Director of Admissions and Referral Relations at Sandhill Child Development Center, with over 19 years' of clinical, consulting and referral relations experience. The show was sponsored by Father Flanagan's Boys Town in Nebraska.
Guest Profile
Jason Wynkoop has a master's in Social Work from the University of Chicago. He currently serves as the Clinical Director for EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago. For more than 15 years, he has counseled kids, teenagers, grownups and families in educational and therapeutic organizations.
Why Searching for Real Self-Esteem is a Challenge
Discussing the theme of searching for real self-Esteem, Jason briefly outlined where the concept of self-esteem went wrong, what erroneous cultural beliefs about over-praising tends to do to harm young people, and suggestions for building a more accurate self-concept.
One difficulty that children often have is that they have an inaccurate self-concept. Some overestimate what they can do while others downplay their natural talents. Unfortunately, many children are never given the opportunity to develop a realistic self-concept because parents and teachers tend to unconditionally approve of everything that they do so as not to "damage" their self-esteem. Consequently, when children discover that they may not be competent in something, they tend to shy away from getting involved in trying anything new. By not trying, they avoid the emotional pain of failure. Jason pointed out that the current social trend of nurturing confidence before competence did not work well. It was much better for children to first develop competence before they chose to feel confident about their abilities.
Self-esteem, Jason said, had to be earned through trial-and-error. When parents overprotected or lavished undeserved praise on their children, they were hurting, not helping them. Children tend to feel confused and upset children when real world experiences reveal their limitations. At EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago, parents are advised how to guide their children in realistic way and students are taught to provide for themselves, take risks, enjoy their activities, and focus on developing their strengths. In the final analysis, searching for real self-esteem was based on realism, trial-and-error, and developing an accurate self-concept.
Guest Profile
Jason Wynkoop has a master's in Social Work from the University of Chicago. He currently serves as the Clinical Director for EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago. For more than 15 years, he has counseled kids, teenagers, grownups and families in educational and therapeutic organizations.
Why Searching for Real Self-Esteem is a Challenge
Discussing the theme of searching for real self-Esteem, Jason briefly outlined where the concept of self-esteem went wrong, what erroneous cultural beliefs about over-praising tends to do to harm young people, and suggestions for building a more accurate self-concept.
One difficulty that children often have is that they have an inaccurate self-concept. Some overestimate what they can do while others downplay their natural talents. Unfortunately, many children are never given the opportunity to develop a realistic self-concept because parents and teachers tend to unconditionally approve of everything that they do so as not to "damage" their self-esteem. Consequently, when children discover that they may not be competent in something, they tend to shy away from getting involved in trying anything new. By not trying, they avoid the emotional pain of failure. Jason pointed out that the current social trend of nurturing confidence before competence did not work well. It was much better for children to first develop competence before they chose to feel confident about their abilities.
Self-esteem, Jason said, had to be earned through trial-and-error. When parents overprotected or lavished undeserved praise on their children, they were hurting, not helping them. Children tend to feel confused and upset children when real world experiences reveal their limitations. At EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago, parents are advised how to guide their children in realistic way and students are taught to provide for themselves, take risks, enjoy their activities, and focus on developing their strengths. In the final analysis, searching for real self-esteem was based on realism, trial-and-error, and developing an accurate self-concept.
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Learn more about Lon Woodbury on Struggling Teens. He has recorded the entire interview on his weekly L.A. Talk Radio show for people to listen to at any time.
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