Your desire to get back together with your ex-girlfriend or wife is very normal. The loss of someone that you care about in your life can be devastating. If your ex was a part of your life every day then you might be feeling a little lost and lonely. The rejection from the breakup has taken a toll on your ego, your self-esteem and your confidence. While you search for a solution and wait for your ex to come back, it is important that you remain cool and calm. When it comes to your relationship, your attitude has everything to do with your success.
While you might want to try all the typical methods to win your girlfriend or wife back, without attraction and desire on her part, your attempts will be fruitless. If you have already tried to convince her to come back to you then you have probably done some damage. If you have been highly emotional or even begged her to give you another chance, this can be overcome. Don't worry. It is important that you allow her to come to you, though. This means that you shouldn't be contacting your ex until you have your confidence back. Typically, a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't contact your ex until the day comes when you no longer feel the urge to contact her.
From here on out, you're going to work on your attitude. The attitude that works best when trying to attract your ex back or any woman, for that matter, is one of self-respect and indifference. You must prepare yourself and be willing to literally walk away at the first sign of disrespect coming from her. The moment you start to feel that she is laughing at you, belittling you or disrespecting you, you're going to leave the situation. You're not going to react or become angry. You're simply going to terminate communicating with her. This new found attitude will be seen in your actions, your words as well as how you carry yourself from here on out in life.
Try not to worry about how your girlfriend or wife is going to react. You might fear that by doing this she will think that you're done with the relationship or that you're just bluffing but you will be surprised. What you are actually doing is taking the power away from her in the relationship. What you're going to do from now on when she treats you poorly is to tell her quietly and in a matter of fact tone that she is not your girlfriend or your wife and that you don't have to listen to her garbage. You will turn away from her and literally walk away. This is what a man who has some self-confidence would do and it works. She will either come after you to apologize immediately or she will apologize at some point when she realizes that you're serious. Resist the temptation to listen to her if she comes after you and continues to yell at your or laugh at you. Once you have removed yourself from the situation on your own terms you will have passed her test and she will have gained some much needed respect for you as a man.
Next, never let your girlfriend or wife see you upset, sad or depressed. You always want your ex to see you at your best. This means that your physical appearance is tidy and clean. You have a smile on your face and your body posture and body language says that you are happy. You have a renewed zest for life. You have goals and dreams as well as the ability to achieve anything that you set your mind to. While the breakup was devastating to you, your life is actually better now that you no longer worry about what she thinks of you. You're free to do what you want with your life.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
This is your time to really plan out your life and begin to dream. You can still secretly include her in your dreams or even make plans based upon what the two of you used to dream but, for now, this is your life we're talking about. Write down some of the goals that you have for yourself. If you could live life on your terms, what would it look like. Don't hold anything back. Shoot for the stars. Write down exactly what you would do, who you would be doing it with and include every feeling, emotion and nuance that you can think of. Take this breakup as being a wake-up call. Losing your girlfriend or wife can give you the motivation to create a life that anyone in their right mind would be happy to be a part of and it's your life.
You will find that in relationships with women and in life, in general, your attitude has everything to do with your success. Women have an instinct for picking up how strong or weak a man is and they are always attracted to men that are confident and who have vision. People in general are attracted to others that are happy. This is just how we are wired. Once your ex realizes that she made a huge mistake about you and your relationship, she will want come back to you. Once she feels attracted to you again there will be no holding her back. Any obstacle that was in her way before will be gone. There will be no need to talk about the breakup and you won't have to change a thing about yourself. She will want to get back together and you will be the one to decide whether you want to continue the relationship or not.
While you might want to try all the typical methods to win your girlfriend or wife back, without attraction and desire on her part, your attempts will be fruitless. If you have already tried to convince her to come back to you then you have probably done some damage. If you have been highly emotional or even begged her to give you another chance, this can be overcome. Don't worry. It is important that you allow her to come to you, though. This means that you shouldn't be contacting your ex until you have your confidence back. Typically, a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't contact your ex until the day comes when you no longer feel the urge to contact her.
From here on out, you're going to work on your attitude. The attitude that works best when trying to attract your ex back or any woman, for that matter, is one of self-respect and indifference. You must prepare yourself and be willing to literally walk away at the first sign of disrespect coming from her. The moment you start to feel that she is laughing at you, belittling you or disrespecting you, you're going to leave the situation. You're not going to react or become angry. You're simply going to terminate communicating with her. This new found attitude will be seen in your actions, your words as well as how you carry yourself from here on out in life.
Try not to worry about how your girlfriend or wife is going to react. You might fear that by doing this she will think that you're done with the relationship or that you're just bluffing but you will be surprised. What you are actually doing is taking the power away from her in the relationship. What you're going to do from now on when she treats you poorly is to tell her quietly and in a matter of fact tone that she is not your girlfriend or your wife and that you don't have to listen to her garbage. You will turn away from her and literally walk away. This is what a man who has some self-confidence would do and it works. She will either come after you to apologize immediately or she will apologize at some point when she realizes that you're serious. Resist the temptation to listen to her if she comes after you and continues to yell at your or laugh at you. Once you have removed yourself from the situation on your own terms you will have passed her test and she will have gained some much needed respect for you as a man.
Next, never let your girlfriend or wife see you upset, sad or depressed. You always want your ex to see you at your best. This means that your physical appearance is tidy and clean. You have a smile on your face and your body posture and body language says that you are happy. You have a renewed zest for life. You have goals and dreams as well as the ability to achieve anything that you set your mind to. While the breakup was devastating to you, your life is actually better now that you no longer worry about what she thinks of you. You're free to do what you want with your life.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
This is your time to really plan out your life and begin to dream. You can still secretly include her in your dreams or even make plans based upon what the two of you used to dream but, for now, this is your life we're talking about. Write down some of the goals that you have for yourself. If you could live life on your terms, what would it look like. Don't hold anything back. Shoot for the stars. Write down exactly what you would do, who you would be doing it with and include every feeling, emotion and nuance that you can think of. Take this breakup as being a wake-up call. Losing your girlfriend or wife can give you the motivation to create a life that anyone in their right mind would be happy to be a part of and it's your life.
You will find that in relationships with women and in life, in general, your attitude has everything to do with your success. Women have an instinct for picking up how strong or weak a man is and they are always attracted to men that are confident and who have vision. People in general are attracted to others that are happy. This is just how we are wired. Once your ex realizes that she made a huge mistake about you and your relationship, she will want come back to you. Once she feels attracted to you again there will be no holding her back. Any obstacle that was in her way before will be gone. There will be no need to talk about the breakup and you won't have to change a thing about yourself. She will want to get back together and you will be the one to decide whether you want to continue the relationship or not.
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