It is often the things that we want the most that become the most elusive to us. Never has this been more true than when we're talking about romantic relationships. If your ex has left you and you are trying to rebuild this relationship, your efforts at this point very well might be futile at the moment. Often right after a relationship, an ex will be stubborn and resistant to talking or even considering getting back together. While you struggle with the pain and you hear the age old advice to move on from your ex and your friends, time is passing. Time moves very slowly when we are waiting for something that we desire and the best thing to do at this point is to keep yourself busy and look to the future.
Right now you might have a lot of time on your hands. You have a choice. You can sit and drive yourself insane worrying about your relationship with your ex or you can make the most of this time. You would be very normal to spend days, weeks or months feeling sorry for yourself and acting depressed. If you want to do that then that is your choice. You must admit that using this time when you're alone and you have the opportunity to do whatever you want is very attractive. Using this time to bring about change in your life and making your life more attractive to your ex when the time comes to talk again is probably a good idea. You will be keeping your mind off of your ex while making changes that will make you more attractive.
Take advantage of this time apart from your ex and start a small business. The freedom of having your own business will be very attractive to your ex and the added income can make life easier when you get back together. If you have every thought of having your own business then this period in your life might be the perfect time to move forward with that plan.
The dream of owning your own business will be your focus for some time but as an added benefit, you will worry less about your ex. You will be doing something with your life instead of thinking about the problem of how to get your ex back. Often when we have a big problem such as a relationship that has headed south, we can't see the solution. Even though you might think that focusing on a solution is the logical way to solve this problem, we become so wrapped up in the drama and emotions surrounding the breakup that we become stuck. Also, all the attention that you are focusing upon your ex has a detrimental effect upon how they view you and feel about you. When a person becomes bigger than life or when we put them up on a pedestal, they usually shy away from us or flee from us. You will find that soon after you begin focusing on your business instead of your ex, they will have the freedom to love you again without the pressure that you were probably putting upon them.
Did you used to dream about traveling and seeing other countries? Was it a goal of yours to take an actual vacation and get away for a week or so? Think of the possibilities and write down the first thing that comes into your mind that excites you. How would it be to see Europe or the Alps? What would the sand in Mexico feel like between your toes? What would you eat on that cruise ship that you always dreamed of sailing on? Planning a trip and coming up with a budget to get you there can take your mind off of your ex and bring you added benefits that you probably hadn't thought of.
When you do go on your vacation, make sure to take plenty of photos and post them to your social networking profiles. Your ex will see these and they will become a little jealous that your life is moving on without them. They will want to be a part of your life and do fun things with you again. While this might seem a little tricky, your ex was the one to leave you. You should not be expected to drop off the face of the planet or never do anything fun again. Your trip to Paris or Mexico could your way of grieving and making yourself feel better in the wake of your breakup, right?
Improving yourself and regaining your self-esteem and confidence needs to be a primary goal from here on out. Doing something constructive to help you to feel better and improve your mood is a part of life that very well might be absent these days. Joining a gym, taking up yoga or meditation are great ways to improve your body and your mind after a breakup. Taking a few courses at your local collage or a new hobby like fencing or rock climbing. Do something that is going to make you happy and expand your mind as well as make you feel good about yourself.
The next time someone tells you that you need to forget about your ex and move on with your life, agree with them and begin living your life for yourself. Putting your relationship problems on the back burner while you distract yourself for a short period of time might be the best thing that you ever do to get your ex back. Nobody needs to know that you are truly giving up on your ex. Showing everyone, including your ex, that you value yourself and that you want to have an interesting life is what will be perceived from the outside. On the inside, it's perfectly fine for you to continue to love your ex and hope for them to come back to you. Instead of worrying about whether your ex is going to come back, you will actually be making your life and your personality more attractive to everyone, especially your ex. Start living your life again and you very well may find that your ex comes back to you more quickly than you thought they would.
Right now you might have a lot of time on your hands. You have a choice. You can sit and drive yourself insane worrying about your relationship with your ex or you can make the most of this time. You would be very normal to spend days, weeks or months feeling sorry for yourself and acting depressed. If you want to do that then that is your choice. You must admit that using this time when you're alone and you have the opportunity to do whatever you want is very attractive. Using this time to bring about change in your life and making your life more attractive to your ex when the time comes to talk again is probably a good idea. You will be keeping your mind off of your ex while making changes that will make you more attractive.
Take advantage of this time apart from your ex and start a small business. The freedom of having your own business will be very attractive to your ex and the added income can make life easier when you get back together. If you have every thought of having your own business then this period in your life might be the perfect time to move forward with that plan.
The dream of owning your own business will be your focus for some time but as an added benefit, you will worry less about your ex. You will be doing something with your life instead of thinking about the problem of how to get your ex back. Often when we have a big problem such as a relationship that has headed south, we can't see the solution. Even though you might think that focusing on a solution is the logical way to solve this problem, we become so wrapped up in the drama and emotions surrounding the breakup that we become stuck. Also, all the attention that you are focusing upon your ex has a detrimental effect upon how they view you and feel about you. When a person becomes bigger than life or when we put them up on a pedestal, they usually shy away from us or flee from us. You will find that soon after you begin focusing on your business instead of your ex, they will have the freedom to love you again without the pressure that you were probably putting upon them.
Did you used to dream about traveling and seeing other countries? Was it a goal of yours to take an actual vacation and get away for a week or so? Think of the possibilities and write down the first thing that comes into your mind that excites you. How would it be to see Europe or the Alps? What would the sand in Mexico feel like between your toes? What would you eat on that cruise ship that you always dreamed of sailing on? Planning a trip and coming up with a budget to get you there can take your mind off of your ex and bring you added benefits that you probably hadn't thought of.
When you do go on your vacation, make sure to take plenty of photos and post them to your social networking profiles. Your ex will see these and they will become a little jealous that your life is moving on without them. They will want to be a part of your life and do fun things with you again. While this might seem a little tricky, your ex was the one to leave you. You should not be expected to drop off the face of the planet or never do anything fun again. Your trip to Paris or Mexico could your way of grieving and making yourself feel better in the wake of your breakup, right?
Improving yourself and regaining your self-esteem and confidence needs to be a primary goal from here on out. Doing something constructive to help you to feel better and improve your mood is a part of life that very well might be absent these days. Joining a gym, taking up yoga or meditation are great ways to improve your body and your mind after a breakup. Taking a few courses at your local collage or a new hobby like fencing or rock climbing. Do something that is going to make you happy and expand your mind as well as make you feel good about yourself.
The next time someone tells you that you need to forget about your ex and move on with your life, agree with them and begin living your life for yourself. Putting your relationship problems on the back burner while you distract yourself for a short period of time might be the best thing that you ever do to get your ex back. Nobody needs to know that you are truly giving up on your ex. Showing everyone, including your ex, that you value yourself and that you want to have an interesting life is what will be perceived from the outside. On the inside, it's perfectly fine for you to continue to love your ex and hope for them to come back to you. Instead of worrying about whether your ex is going to come back, you will actually be making your life and your personality more attractive to everyone, especially your ex. Start living your life again and you very well may find that your ex comes back to you more quickly than you thought they would.
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